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Swingers Glossary of Terms

Swingers Glossary of Terms

We’ve created this swingers glossary for those who may be new to the swingers lifestyle as well as those who may be experienced, but hear a new term and need more information.

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As you’ll learn the swingers lifestyle does have some phrases and terminology that may not be familiar to you. Please keep in mind that it is not a prerequisite to know the terms. You will find that most swingers and swinger couples you meet are friendly and easy to talk to. Within time you will pick up the terminology. In the meantime, you can use our glossary to get you started.


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  • AC/DC: This term refers to someone who is Bisexual. This term can be used loosely to mean a male or female Bisexual or more strictly as a male who is both a "giver" and a "receiver."�

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  • Adult: Euphemism for pornography or any implied "mature" action or behavior (as in Adult Play).�

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  • Adult Play: Interacting in a sexual nature such as sex play or swinging.�

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  • Airtight: When the three major orifices - vagina, mouth and ass - of the woman are filled by a different man`s penis at the same time.

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  • Always Safe: This term means that the man practices safe (condom every time) sex or that the woman only has sex with men if they wear a condom.

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  • Anal Intercourse: Refers to "butt sex" which can often be referred to as "Greek" due to the ancient Greeks proclivity for such activities.

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  • Analingus: Orally stimulating the anus with the mouth and/or tongue. Also called a rim job.

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  • Back Door: This term can either refer to anal sex or just the hole that allows for such pleasure.

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  • BBBiW: Big Beautiful Bisexual Women.�

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  • BBW: Big Beautiful Women. A woman who is curvier than the typical norm for society.

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  • B & D: "B" is for "Bondage" and "D" is for "Discipline". This term is usually used as reference to a "lite" version of BDSM�
  • BDSM: Stands for Bondage, Discipline and Sadomasochism and is usually the generalized blanket term for people in the Bondage Lifestyle.

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  • Bi: Abbreviated version of Bisexual.

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  • Bi Curious: A person who believes he or she may find him/her self equally (or almost equally) attracted to both genders emotionally, physically and sexually, but has not had sufficient experience to make that determination; open to the idea of experiencing an intimate encounter with an individual of the same sex..�

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  • Bi Femme/ Bi Fem: A Bisexual who is more "girly" than butch.�

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  • Biphobic: Much like Homophobic, it is the fear, distain or misunderstanding of Bisexuals; some gays and lesbians can be BiPhobic, thinking that Bisexuals have yet to make up their minds.

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  • Bisexual: A person who can find him/her self equally (or almost equally) attracted to both genders emotionally, physically and sexually.�

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  • Bondage: When an individual is sexually aroused by being bound or restrained or the act of binding or restraining for sexual arousal.�

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  • Bondage Lifestyle: A collection of people who enjoy Bondage, Discipline or Sadomasochism on either the giving or receiving end.�

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  • Butch: A Bisexual or Lesbian who relates herself more as a masculine.�


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  • Closed Swinging: Sexual interaction among couples who swap using separate rooms in the same house.

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  • Can Entertain: This means that your home is available for meeting other swingers for adult play.

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  • Can Travel: If a swinger can travel, then it means that she is not against the idea of "coming to you." Sometimes this is to be courteous, but it can also be caused by an inability to travel.�

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  • Caning: A spanking using a light cane as to create sexual arousal in your submissive partner.

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  • CBT: Cock and Ball Torture. Applying pain to the male genital region for the sexual arousal of receiver and/or the giver.�

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  • Cheating: Cheating is a broad term (and a serious term) in the lifestyle. Many swingers are not bound to society`s definition of cheating due to the communication and extenuating circumstances in any given relationship. Each grouping of people set their own rules, their own bounds and deviating from that is cheating.�

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  • Clean: Closely related to DD Free, this term either means free of sexually transmitted diseases and/or a lack of drug use.

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  • Closet Swinger: A person who is more discrete about the fact that he or she is a swinger. The factors causing a person to need discretion are as numerous as there are closet swingers.

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  • Couple : A couple can be a man and woman (but also a man and man or woman and woman) who may be married, may live together or just two people coming together for swinging purposes.

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  • Consenting Adults: A consenting adult is anyone of legal age for the country of residence to by law be deemed able to make informed decisions for him or herself.

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  • Cunnilingus: Orally stimulating the clitoris or vagina by the mouth and or tongue.�

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  • Curiosity: The feeling that one may be attracted to both genders emotionally, physically and sexually, and a want to explore.�


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  • D/D Free: Drug and Disease Free. Meaning the same as Clean, but declaring more specifically that the person is free of both sexually transmitted disease and drug use.
  • Discipline: Actions ranging from verbally chastising to mild spankings to painful beatings which arouse sexual desires.

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  • Dildo: An artificial phallus, usually made to resemble a penis, made of rubber, plastic, metal or glass for sexual stimulation and gratification of the vagina or the anus. These can also come in strap-on varieties for a woman to take the male aggressor rule.

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  • Director: The person who operates a Swing Club.

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  • Discretion: The exercise of caution among swingers for reasons of children, friends or family that may not be aware of their swinging activity. Some people, such as closet swingers, require more discretion than others.

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  • Docile: Also known as a Submissive, a person willing to submit to bondage and/or discipline and sexually aroused by such.

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  • Dogging (British): Refers to either having or observing exhibitionist sex in a public or semi-public place, usually outdoors. Sometimes the voyeurs join in on the sex, usually they just watch from nearby. The term most likely comes from the alibi of "walking the dog" to explain your outdoor adventures.

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  • Dominant: The sexual partner who dominates over a willing Submissive partner for the sexual satisfaction of both parties.�

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  • DP: Double Penetration. This falls one hole short of airtight in that one woman has both her anus and vagina filled by the penis of different men simultaneously.�


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  • Entertain: The ability to offer your home as a meeting place for adult play.�
  • Exhibitionist: Having sex with a partner while being watched. Exhibitionists who view exhibitionism as a lifestyle as opposed to a rare thrill carefully select their target audience and make the exposure brief, inconspicuous and apparently unintentional. It is a fetish, and many such practitioners see it as an art form. Some exhibitionists wish to display themselves sexually to other people singly or in groups. This can be done consensually as part of swinging or group sex. When done in a non-threatening manner, the intent is usually to surprise and/or sexually arouse the viewer, giving the exhibitionist an ego rush.


  • Facial: One or many men "finishing" on someone`s face, usually the face of the person responsible for his climax.
  • Fellatio: Orally stimulating the penis and/or testicles with the mouth and/or tongue.

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  • Femme or Fem: A lesbian who relates herself more as `girly` or feminine.

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  • Fetish: Commonly known as sexual arousal through the use of objects or affection to parts of the body, such as fingers, feet, leather, and etc...but, is more scientifically defined as the inability to reach complete sexual arousal without certain elements being present (whether it be porn playing in the background, being spanked, the smell of woman’s underwear).

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  • fff: A threesome involving three women, this is usually a Lesbian couple who bring a Bisexual or BiCurious) women to join them.

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  • ffff: Group Sex involving four women, this is usually two Lesbian couples and can include any variety of swinging and swapping.

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  • fffm: Group Sex involving three women and one man, this is usually Lesbian couple who invite a mf couple to join them.�

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  • ffm: A threesome involving two women (at least one Bisexual or BiCurious) and a man.

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  • Flagellation: Sexual stimulation derived from pain, usually spanking, caning or whipping.

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  • fmf: A threesome involving two women (usually straight, but at least one is more than likely Bisexual or BiCurious) and a man.

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  • French: A term most commonly known for a kiss, but in the lifestyle this term will more than likely mean oral sex.�

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  • "Friends First" Swingers: People who prefer to get to know others in some form of non-sexual activity before engaging in adult play. These people are usually looking for others very local who can meet for drinks or diner on a fairly regular basis.

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  • Full Swap: having penetrative sex with someone other than one`s partner. Although this is the commonly understood definition of swinging, it is not necessarily the most common type. Full swapping tends to occur at On-Premise Parties and Swing Clubs.
  • Fun and Games: Euphemism for sexual activity very similar to play.


  • Gang Bang: A situation in which one individual, either a woman or a man, has sexual intercourse with multiple partners in turn. When a man has sex with several women, it is usually known as a reverse gangbang Gang bangs are usually attended by many people where some may choose to participate while others enjoy simply watching and being voyeurs.�

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  • Greek: A slang word used for anal intercourse.

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  • Group Room: A room, either in a home or a club, set aside for the purpose of group sex, usually with wall to wall mattresses. Sometimes referred to as an orgy room.

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  • Group Sex: An all-inclusive term for activities involving multiple partners in the same vicinity. Typically, swinging activities occur when a married or otherwise committed couple engages in sexual activity with another couple, multiple couples, or a single individual. These acts can occur in the same room (often called same room swinging) though different or separate room swinging does occur. On these occasions, swingers will often refer to sex as play. Group sex is sexual behavior involving more than two participants at the same time. Group sex involving one participant being penetrated by multiple people is sometimes termed a gang bang.


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  • Hard Core: When swingers meet and sexual activity is expected.
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  • Heterosexual: A person who is attracted to the opposite gender emotionally, physically and sexually.

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  • Homophobic: The fear, distain or misunderstanding of Homosexuals by someone of the heterosexual community.

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  • Homosexual: A blanket term for people of either sex who are attracted to their own gender emotionally, physically and sexually.

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  • Hung: Refers to a man with a substantially large penis.�


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  • Indoor Sports: A generalized way of referring to swinging activities. This obviously differs from dogging which is an outdoor sport.�

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  • Interested in Friendship: A swinging relationship, very similar to "Friends First" Swingers that is not limited to sex but includes social activities as well.

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  • IRL: In Real Life. Meaning "in person" or "outside the internet".�

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  • ISO: In Search Of.


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  • Jelly: A material used to make vibrators and dildos which are usually brightly colored and soft and squishy, most commonly.
  • Joy Jelly: A slang term used for lubrication, either from a bottle or created naturally by a woman.

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  • Keraunophilia: When a person derives sexual excitement from thunder and/or lightning.�
  • Knismolagnia: Sexual arousal from being tickled.


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  • Leather/Leather / Leather Sex / Leather Lifestyle: A synonym for SM used in fetish fashion and gear.
  • Leg Spreader: A bondage item consisting of a metal bar and leg shackles on each end. A leg spreader is used to prevent an individual from closing their legs.

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  • Licentious: Having no sexual restraint or boundaries.�

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  • Marital Aids: Elements brought into the bedroom to spice up the romance or sexuality of a relationship (i.e. vibrators, dildos, porn, other people, etc.).
  • Masochist: A person who gains sexual gratification by receiving pain or being humiliated by others.

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  • Master/Slave: Participants in a Bondage and Discipline sexual relationship.�
  • Mfffm: A room at a club with a mat (or several) for the purpose of sexual activity, usually allowing others the ability to watch.�

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  • Meet for Pleasure: Desire to meet for sex only with no implication of anything non-sexual stemming from it.�

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  • Meet n Greet: It is an event organized as a means to get-acquainted with fellow swingers in the area, usually prior to an upcoming party.

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  • mffm: Group sex with 2 members of each gender where two couples play and the women interact with one another as well.�

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  • mfm: A threesome involving two men (both straight) and a woman.�

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  • mfmf: This could connote group sex with 2 members of each gender or it could stand for same room swapping.�

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  • mmf: A threesome involving two men (at least one bisexual) and a woman.�

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  • Menage A` Trois: A French term describing a relationship or domestic arrangement in which three people, often a married couple and another lover, share a sexual relationship, although the relationship might or might not involve all three persons having sexual relations with each other. It is also used to refer to an arrangement where three people share sexual relations, and this has become the predominant definition. Some also use it to describe any sex act involving three people, otherwise known as a threesome. Menage a trois, especially two women with one man, has become more common, perhaps due to the increasing exposure of swingers and swinger events.

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  • Newbies: Newcomers. These could be people who are new to the lifestyle or online it could mean they are new to a site or board or chat room. More than likely you have a bit of newbie in you if you are reading the dictionary... unless you just came here to giggle at the quirky slant we put on these.


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  • Off Premise: An event or location at which sexual activity is prohibited. If members wish to get together sexually they either go to a hotel, home, or else where for pleasure.
  • On Premise: These are events usually held at house parties or private clubs. Sexual activities are allowed in designated areas or bedrooms. There are also safe rooms where sexual activities are not allowed to take place.�

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  • Open Swinging: Sexual interaction among couples who swap using the same room, or bed.
  • Orgy: A party which involves unrestrained indulgence, especially in sexual activity. This term is usually used to mean group sex of either large numbers or liberal orientation.

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  • Orgy Room: A room, either in a home or a club, set aside for the purpose of group sex, usually with wall to wall mattresses. Sometimes referred to as a group room.

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  • OWO: Slang for "Oral Without Condom".

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  • Parties (noun): Events, usually held in the home of a swinger, where couples, single women, and the occasional single man come for swinging activities. Parties differ from orgies in that private rooms can be used, but all swingers are under one roof.
  • Party (verb): Three or more people getting together for sex play. The Party above implies "going to A party" while as a verb it implies "going to party".�
  • Party Clothes: Clothing specifically worn to swing parties or clubs (i.e. lingerie, robes, shorts, etc.) which are revealing and easily removable.

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  • Party House: The home of a swinger that has a regular schedule of on-premise swinging parties. No membership offered or required.

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  • Passive: Docile and submissive in swinging.

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  • Play: A tasteful word for any variation of sexual interaction based on the comfort level of all involved.

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  • Play Alone: This term is used to tell if one or both members of a couple have sexual interactions with others without the other member of the couple.�

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  • Queen: Term used for a male homosexual with feminine characteristics.
    • Queer: Once a derogatory term for homosexual, queer is now an accepted term for homosexuality in the homosexual community.����


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  • Recreational Swinger: Someone who practices swinging strictly for sexual encounters with no desire for friendship.
  • Refractory Period: The recovery period after orgasm during which an individual cannot achieve another orgasm.

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  • Restraint: Any such item (i.e. ropes, handcuffs, etc) which can be used to limit mobility of the submissive sex partner as a means to sexually stimulate both parties.

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  • Rimming: Orally stimulating the anus with the mouth and/or tongue. Scientifically known as Analingus

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  • Roman: A free for all where multiple orgies take place in the same room and, like an orgy, the sexual orientation of all involved is usually quite open and liberal with very taboos.

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  • Rubber: Sexual stimulation through the use of rubber (clothing, restraints or whipping device), usually used in B&D. And of course the more common definition: a condom.


  • Safe: A misnomer implying that safety from pregnancy is safety from STDs meaning a male with vasectomy or female with hysterectomy or tubal ligation. (This means that he or she is unable to impregnate or to become pregnant respectively.) This term can also mean "uses a condom", but to ensure that there is no confusion, the term Always Safe without a doubt implies condom usage.

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  • Safe Word: Specific word or phrase agreed upon by a couple to let the other know when level of discomfort experienced in B&D has reached its threshold. This should not be a word like "stop" or "don`t", but instead an unusual word or phrase like "armadillo toes". A Safe Word is important, make sure both parties in the couple can remember and understand the value of the word.

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  • Sex Play: The term play already implies sex, so the term sex play would become redundant except for the fact that it is usually in a ffm threesome context consisting of one male and two bisexual females. This term indicates that the "play" will be focused on foreplay and sensual arousal with one of the women having intercourse with the man while the other watches to "end" each "round".�
  • Single: A person in the lifestyle who is either single or plays alone.

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  • Social: It is an event, or Meet n Greet, that is organized in a get-acquainted area of neutral ground, such as a restaurant, or dance hall. These can be followed immediately by a party or be used to announce an upcoming party.�

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  • Soft swap or Soft Swinging: Kissing, stroking, or having oral sex with a third or fourth person. Soft swap may be in the form of a threesome, group sex, or the literal swapping of partners. Soft swapping usually is in the form of oral sex with no penetration. It is a great way for swing couples to feel each other out before going too far or stepping over boundaries that they may have set for themselves.

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  • Soft Swing Girls Touching: This is the same as an mffm where the couples do not swap, but the girls interact during Soft Swing�
  • STD: Sexually Transmitted Disease. This is one of many viral and bacterial infections which are transmitted thru sexual activities. You will find definitions to a broad selection of them in this glossary. Not the happiest of definitions, but this is as much about knowledge as it is entertainment.
  • Straight: In the lifestyle this refers to a person not interested in homosexual activity, but in the gay community this is usually used to describe someone who does not use drugs. This term, similar to Vanilla, is also used by swingers to refer to a non-swinger.
  • Strap On: A variety of dildo which straps and/or inserts into the wearer so a woman can please her partner in ways which would require a penis.�

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  • Submissive: One who desires to be dominated. This can be used in B&D terms or could just be used to explain a person`s lack of aggression in the bedroom.�
  • Swapping: The exchanging of partners by a collection of couples for sexual activities. This can be open or closed.

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  • Swing (noun): An apparatus much like the one you used as a child, but much more fun. Swings can hang from the ceiling or be self supporting on the floor. A swing supports one member of the couple off the ground giving the other member more creative angles for sexual pleasures.

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  • Swing (verb): The act of being in the lifestyle or the set of preferences you have set in the lifestyle. Such as "How do you swing?"... this could be answered "Closed Swap" or "She doesn`t play alone".

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  • Swingers Club: A place where swinging couples and singles can meet and mingle and play. Clubs can be On-Premise or Off-Premise and usually cater to couples and single Bi women - allowing for only a certain percentage of single males.

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  • Swinger: A person or couple enters the lifestyle in search of recreational sex and/or creating friendships with like minded people.�

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  • Swinging: This is where two or more couples agree to get together for the express purpose of engaging in intimate, sexual activities with a partner or partners other than their own.�

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  • Swinger Lifestyle - This is a lifestyle where a couple or individual�enter into for the purpose of engaging in intimate, sexual activities with a partner or partners other than their own.

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  • Threesome: A term that describes a sexual act involving three people, sometimes also referred to as a ménage a trois. The act has been referred to by some as being done by married couples who have reached a point in their marriage where both believe they need added excitement, commonly referred to as spicing up the marriage. In most cases it is a one time act by a married couple with a third partner and not intended to be carried on further, sometimes called swinging. Threesomes tend to be with two females and a male.

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  • Ticket: A female brought to a swing party by a single male to allow him to gain entrance with the illusion of being "coupled". She usually has no intention of participating in sexual activity.

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  • Transvestite: A man who is sexually stimulated by wearing woman`s clothing - not necessarily homosexual.

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  • Travel: The ability to meet with another swinger at the other swinger’s house. This could be out of courtesy or an inability to entertain.


  • UC: Abbreviation for uncut, or uncircumcised.

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  • Vanilla: A broad term for "normal" people. The term vanilla is used by people in the Bondage Lifestyle to describe anyone who doesn`t practice some form of BDSM or another, by people in the Swinging Lifestyle to describe anyone who doesn`t swing and less frequently by the GLBT community to mean heterosexuals.

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  • Versatile: Another term for Bisexual.

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  • Violet Wand: Slang for a BDSM sex toy, which creates a shock when touched.�

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  • Voyeurism: A practice in which an individual derives sexual pleasure from observing other people. Such people may be engaged in sexual acts or be nude. At swingers parties or swinger events voyeurs tend to enjoy watching others engage in sexual acts.

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  • Wand Vibrator: A powerful vibrator, usually with a vibrating "tip", long flexible shaft, and controls located at the base.
  • Waterproof Vibrator: A vibrator that is resistant to water. Waterproof vibrators can be used safely in any wet environment.

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  • Water Sports: This is a form of sexual stimulation where one urinates on other.

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  • Whip: An object such as a cane, crop, paddle or slapper used to beat a submissive.


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  • X-dresser: Short for cross dresser.�
  • X-factor: An individual`s sex appeal or general attractiveness.�

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  • X-frame: A bondage frame in the shape of an X in a horizontal position.�

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  • Zelophile: A person who is sexually excited by their partner`s jealousy.�

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